Im judging you, judging me, judging you.

IM JUDGING YOU, JUDGING ME , JUDGING YOU.

Alright, this is a safe space with no judgments, so let's be honest. Have you ever been guilty of seeing a stranger walking down the street and immediately starting to place judgments on them? Do you catch yourself rolling your eyes at someone's outfit or scoffing at the way someone engages with others because it's not what you think they should be doing? Well, sweetheart, you might just be a certified member of the Judgmental Squad. But before you start throwing shade at everyone who crosses your path, let's take a closer look at this pesky habit us humans have developed.

Let's be real for a moment - we have all been guilty of being judgmental at one point or another. Whether it's judging someone's outfit, their choice of career, or their lifestyle, we all have our own biases that affect the way we see and perceive others. However, being judgmental can lead to negative consequences not just for the people we judge but for ourselves as well.

The crazy part is that these judgments that we place on others are most often a reflection of a judgment we have placed on ourselves. Have you ever heard the saying, "We see things not as they are, but as we are"? It's time to stop the cycle of judgment and start embracing empathy and understanding instead. 

“When you point the finger, how many fingers are pointed back at you”.

It’s a classic witty reminder that our judgments of others are often just projections of our own insecurities and flaws. It's like we're holding up a mirror to ourselves, but instead of seeing our own reflection, we're seeing a distorted image of others.

Think about it, when we judge someone for their appearance, it's often because we're insecure about our own looks. When we judge someone for their career choice, it's often because we're uncertain about our own path in life. And when we judge someone for their lifestyle choices, it's often because we're grappling with our own values and beliefs.

The truth is, the judgments we place on others say more about ourselves than they do about the people we're judging. It's a reflection of our own biases, insecurities, and preconceptions. And while it can be tempting to pass judgment on others, it's important to remember that we're all just flawed human beings trying to navigate this crazy world.

So the next time you catch yourself judging someone, take a moment to pause and reflect on why you're feeling that way. Is it because of something they're doing, or is it because of something within yourself? By examining our own biases and insecurities, we can start to break free from the cycle of judgment and move towards a more compassionate and empathetic way of living.

Let's face it, we all have a little judgey McJudgerson inside us. Whether it's silently critiquing someone's outfit or mentally rolling our eyes at their life choices, we've all been there. But what if I told you that being judgmental is like wearing blinders? It limits our perspective and prevents us from seeing the true beauty and complexity of the world around us.

"Judgment creates distance, while empathy bridges the gap between us."

Ok so maybe we’re a little judgy…. Good now we’re being honest..

Judgment can be conscious or unconscious. In fact, sometimes we make judgments without even realizing it, and it's on us to change that. You will start to realize when you're being judgmental just by simply paying a little more attention to your thoughts and feelings towards others. If you find yourself making assumptions about someone, take a moment to reflect on why you feel that way. Try to identify any biases or stereotypes that might be influencing your thoughts. You can also try to put yourself in the other person's shoes and consider their perspective. Practicing mindfulness and being present in the moment can also help you become more aware of your thoughts and judgments. By acknowledging and challenging your judgments, you can start to shift your perspective and become more open-minded and accepting of others. Perhaps just reading this might make you more aware. So let's explore some of the ways in which our judgments show up and how we can turn it around."

"When we judge others, we miss out on the opportunity to learn from their unique perspectives."

5 Common Judgments We Make and How to Stop Them

1. Appearance judgments - We judge others based on how they look, their style, and their grooming. But let's be honest - we've all had bad hair days, fashion fails, or times when we didn't look our best. And who decided that there's a "right" way to look? Instead of judging someone based on their appearance, let's celebrate their uniqueness and individuality. After all, isn't it more interesting to live in a world with a diverse range of styles and looks? When we judge others based on their appearance, it can actually hold us back from expressing ourselves fully. We may avoid wearing certain clothes or trying new styles out of fear of being judged.

   To stop this judgment, we can celebrate diversity, express ourselves authentically, and embrace uniqueness. Whether you're into colourful hair, tattoos, or vintage clothing, be yourself and let others be themselves.

2. Career judgments - Why do we put so much weight on someone's job title? A person's worth isn't determined by their career or financial situation. Why do we get so caught up in job titles anyway? I mean, a "marketing manager" doesn't automatically make someone more valuable than a "barista" or a "stay-at-home parent." Sure, some jobs may come with higher salaries or a fancy corner office, but does that really determine someone's worth as a person? Let's ditch the judgment and start appreciating people for who they truly are - their unique talents, passions, and personality quirks. After all, isn't it more interesting to get to know someone beyond their career path? Who knows, you might discover a new hobby, a hidden talent, or even a kindred spirit.

   So the next time you meet someone, don't get caught up in their career. Instead, ask them about their passions, their dreams, and what makes them truly happy. You might be surprised at what you learn and maybe even get inspired to pursue your own passions.

3. Lifestyle judgments - Sometimes we judge others based on their lifestyle choices, from the people they hang around with to the way they spend their free time. But everyone has different preferences and priorities. To stop this judgment, we can focus on our own lives, embrace diversity, and strive to be the best versions of ourselves. Whether you're a party animal, a fitness enthusiast, a bookworm, or a gamer, your lifestyle choices are valid as long as they don't harm others. So let's celebrate our differences and find common ground through mutual respect and understanding.

4. Behavior judgments - We often judge others based on their behavior, without considering the possibility of what they may be going through. We all have our flaws and face our challenges. Sometimes it causes us to show up in ways that induce behaviors that even we as the individual are not proud of.

   To stop this judgment, we can practice empathy, listen with an open mind, and build stronger relationships. Whether someone has acted rudely, made a bad decision, or simply seemed distant, we can try to understand their perspective, offer support, and communicate honestly. By doing so, we can foster compassion and connection instead of resentment and conflict.

5. Intelligence judgments - Intelligence comes in many forms, and everyone has their strengths and weaknesses. Yet all too often judgments are placed on others based on their academic ability or language skills. It can easily be stopped if we were to embrace the diversity of skills and abilities in the world, be open to broadening our understanding of intelligence, and create a more inclusive and supportive community. Whether someone excels in math, art, music, or interpersonal skills, we can appreciate their talents and learn from their unique perspectives. By doing so, we can create a culture of learning

By stopping these common judgments, we can create a happier, healthier, and more connected world. We can focus on our own growth and development instead of comparing ourselves to others. By setting goals and working towards them, we can create a sense of purpose and fulfillment in our lives. And finally, we can celebrate the differences in people's styles, lifestyles, and choices instead of trying to fit everyone into a narrow mold. Let's celebrate diversity, appreciate people for who they truly are, practice empathy, and embrace uniqueness. After all, life is too short to judge others based on narrow criteria. Let's open our minds, hearts, and souls to the rich tapestry of humanity.

"The moment we let go of judgment is the moment we truly begin to see and appreciate the beauty in diversity."

So stop being so damn judgmental!

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And live your life!

With love,

Eliza Jane.