The Art of Unapologetic Self-Impression:

Ever found yourself stuck in the cycle of trying to impress everyone and their dog, only to end up feeling like a deflated balloon at a party? Yeah, me too. Welcome to the club of the perpetually unimpressed!

I personally have been a serial people pleaser for the majority of my life, and it really wasn’t until this guy, (my now partner), dropped some truth bombs on me not long after we first met. This one particular day I was complaining about the negative experiences I was having with people both in public and on social media. Then he said something that hit me like a ton of bricks: Don’t quote me, but it was somewhere along the lines of "The experiences you have with people are a direct reflection of the relationship you have with yourself."

And man, did that hit home like a wrecking ball. Firstly I took offence, as we often do when confronted with a not so nice ‘truth’ about ourselves. But then it was like suddenly seeing the world through a new pair of glasses. Just to break it down a little further, if we're not vibing with the crowd or feeling like we're always falling short, maybe it's time to turn the spotlight inward. What's our relationship with ourselves like? Are we showing up authentically, or are we still chasing approval like it's going out of style?

Look it's a journey, but hey, at least we're in on it.

Now let's be honest, in today's hyper-connected, Wi-Fi world, it feels like we're all living in our very own Truman Show, constantly under the scrutiny of an invisible audience. The pressure to curate the perfect persona can be as suffocating as trying to fit into skinny jeans after a long winter.

But guess what? Another truth bomb coming atcha!

The more you try to impress others, the less impressed they will be.

So, let's explore why authenticity trumps impressions every time.

Society often glorifies the idea of "faking it till you make it," but the truth is, authenticity is the key to genuine connections and long-term success. When we prioritize external validation over staying true to ourselves, we lose sight of what truly matters. We end up trapped in a cycle of trying to meet unrealistic expectations, only to feel unfulfilled and disconnected from our true selves.

So, what's the alternative?

Swap the pursuit of approval for the embrace of authenticity.

Authenticity allows us to forge meaningful connections based on trust, respect, and shared values. By focusing on impressing ourselves rather than others, we free ourselves from the shackles of approval-seeking behaviour. We empower ourselves to pursue our passions, express our unique perspectives, and attract like-minded individuals who appreciate us for who we truly are.

‘You get out what you put in’ so to say.

Okay, so how do we do this?

Well, I'm no genius, but here’s what I've learned so far as some keys to unlocking your authentic self and your true potential:

Stay true to YOU: It's all about living your truth, no matter what. When you stay authentic, you attract people who vibe with the real you, making your connections rock solid. So, don't shy away from being yourself – that's how you build your tribe and strengthen those bonds. When you boldly show up as your authentic self, you magnetize others who just 'get' you.

Silent Hustle, Loud Success: Here's the deal – actions speak louder than words. Focus on hustling behind the scenes without seeking applause from the peanut gallery. Let your grind do the talking, and let your success make all the noise. Stay low-key and let your achievements speak volumes.

Inner Validation is The Ultimate High Five: Forget seeking approval from others – that's like chasing butterflies. Real satisfaction comes from looking inwards and measuring your success by your own growth and fulfilment. When you align your actions with your values, that's where the true victory lies.

Celebrate Your Own Progress: Every step counts, big or small. So, don't overlook those mini wins along the way. Whether it's a major breakthrough or a baby step forward, it's all progress. Embrace the journey, because every tiny victory adds up and propels you closer to your goals.

Your Vibe Attracts Your Tribe: Real connections are the magic sauce of life. Be your unfiltered, authentic self, and you'll draw in those who vibe with your vibe. These connections aren't just surface-level – they see you, really see you, and love what they see. They're like soul fuel, igniting your growth, sparking your creativity, and giving you a safe space to just be. Remember, it's quality over quantity – nurture those deep, meaningful connections that lift you higher.

Focus on What Matters: Tune out the noise of society's expectations and superficial pursuits. Instead, zero in on what lights your fire and brings you joy. Focus your energy on activities and relationships that align with your core values. That's where the real magic happens.

Find Harmony Within the Chaos: It's about tuning into your inner voice, recognising that your contentment isn't dictated by external factors. Trusting your journey means embracing every twist and turn, knowing that each experience – whether a triumph or a stumble – shapes your growth. Ride the waves of life, understanding that both the highs and lows are essential for your evolution.

Rise by Lifting Others: True greatness isn't about boasting your wins – it's about lifting others up along the way. Stay grounded in your victories and extend a hand to those climbing their own mountains. By spreading inspiration and support, you set off a chain reaction of positivity that knows no bounds.

Embracing authenticity is not always easy, but the rewards are immeasurable. In a world often obsessed with impressions and validation, embracing authenticity is the ultimate act of self-love and empowerment. As you journey towards unlocking your true self, remember that you are enough just as you are. Trust in yourself, stay true to your values, and watch as your life transforms in ways you never thought possible.

Are you ready to embark on this journey of self-discovery and empowerment? Join me in embracing authenticity and unleashing our true potential together. Sign up for this newsletter to stay informed about upcoming community events (Yes there’s a community coming), where we'll continue to support and inspire each other along the way. Together, we can create a tribe where authenticity reigns supreme and each member is celebrated for their unique brilliance.

Let's make authenticity the new way to impress.

Much love,

Eliza Jane.